You know what’s the hardest
part in living in Paris? It's seeing people come and go. Meeting new people,
making new friends all the time and then having to say goodbye. Paris is a
place where everyone wants to come but why can’t they stay here? When I first
came to Paris and worked as an au pair, I had au pair friends from all over the
world. But most of them were in Paris just for six months or one year and then
went back to their country to start their studies or whatever. But it was okay
back then, even though I knew that I had come to Paris to stay, I understood
that for most of my friends, Paris was just a phase, a fun experience, but their
life was somewhere else. I spent wonderful time together with those girls and
it’s great to see them when they come to Paris for holidays. But yeah, I knew
that they were not going to stay, same for all the exchange students or other
"gap year in Paris" people I've made friends with. This fall W and G, two of my old aupair friends came back to France to study and that's awesome but soon they will be leaving again...
But it's so much worse when
you think that someone is like you. When you think that someone loves Paris as
much as you do and is never going to leave. And then suddenly that person
decides to move. That happened to me this summer. There used to be me, A, M and
T, four foreign girls in Paris. We spent so much time together, sometimes only
two or three of us but all four always when we managed to organize our time.
Sometimes we didn't have time to see us that often but I still knew that my
girls where near me, that I could talk to them or meet up for coffee whenever
I wanted. We were all so Parisian, if someone asked us for how long we were
going to stay in Paris, we would say that we were not going anywhere, that
Paris was our home. I took us four for granted and that's why I was so shocked
when A and M decided to leave. A started her studies in Stockholm this fall and
M moved back to Hawaii. So now there's only me and T left of us four. I miss us
all being together and I feel like a part of me is missing. I often think about
one evening this summer when we were at M’s place. We spent hours lying on M’s
bed, just talking, laughing and enjoying each other’s company. We didn’t know
it back then but that was the last time we were all four together and I don’t
know when the next time is going to be.
But this weekend was
wonderful because two became three for a couple of days: A came to Paris! I can’t
even explain how great it has been to have her back here. And normally I don’t
even see T that often because we’re both so busy but this weekend I got to
spend a lot of time with her too. That was amazing. And I know I’ll be crying
tomorrow when A leaves because A, Paris is not the same without you!
lunch catch up in le Marais |
so cute A. And the cheescake was yummy too |
girls night |
T trying on A's new jacket |
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Walking around in le Marais |
A's French breakfast on Saturday morning |
When I came to Paris almost
three years ago I didn’t know anyone. And like I said, in the beginning most of
the people I met left Paris quite soon. But this year I’ve made many new French
friends and got closer with some I already knew. That makes me really happy and
I feel like I’m finally finding my place here and getting into the French life.
Examples from this week: (yep
I know, I should study more and socialize less…)
Wednesday night I went out
with my Finnish friend E and we bumped into this group of really fun French
guys.
me and my clone, the other blond Finnish girl who has the same name as me and who also used to live next to me and work at the same place than me. |
meeting French guys is easy, right E? |
Thursday evening I had
dinner with S, P and two other French girls. S, it was so nice of you to invite
me too, I would love to get to know you better.
P attacking S's apple pie |
Friday afternoon I met up with
S and R, my favorites from my old school (L and L you should have come too!)
And Saturday night I spent
a perfect soirée with A,T, M (now I’m talking about the Australian M, not the Hawaiian,
don’t get confused with my letters ;)) and the best French people we know.
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I'll never let you go |
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A stole my jacket! |
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party time! |
I’m so grateful to have you
all in my life and I’m also really grateful that I make friends
easily even though I live in a foreign country. I know it could be a lot more
difficult. And all my friends who are not in Paris I miss you and you’re always
in my thoughts.
xoxo: Emi
Ps. J and M, I know you
might have to or want to live somewhere else sometime in the future and I’m
already a bit concerned about that. If you ever leave me I don’t know how I
would survive.